It's been a long time since I've spent so much time with my younger brother, Joe, but our recent trip to California afforded this opportunity. You may have read an earlier post, A Special Gift, which explains that he was born with Down Syndrome. He was also born with some heart problems and, at age 47, is showing physical signs of aging that seem to be prevalent with those who have this syndrome. I tell you this because in looking at him, it's easy to see that he has obvious impairments which others would immediately notice.
But what struck me over and over again on our trip was how people responded to him. He seems to carry within him a light that shines through, pulling people into it and bringing out the best in them. He is simply "Joe" and in that innocent and open nature, he exemplifies something greater than is first evident.
From the moment we stepped out of the car at the airport for curbside check-in, it started. He smiled, greeted the attendant and soon had her right in the palm of his hand. He left her smiling. Then the other passengers and flight personnel, he left them smiling also.
While in San Diego, it continued, starting with the barber who gave him extra care and attention and even included a scalp and shoulder massage with his haircut. Then there were the Marines, whom he desperately wanted to meet while at a restaurant, who were willing to interrupt their lunch to talk with him and return his serious and solemn salute to them.
Joe has always loved to sing and his dream was to record a CD. Our sister searched out places where music could be obtained and a recording made. While in the music store, the owner, a former member of the 50's band The Outsiders, talked with Joe for a while, then took him to his private studio, set him up on his own personal drum set and said, "Have some fun, Joe." He beat and played to his heart's content...and left another person smiling when he left the store.
Onto the recording studio - the same thing happened. The technician worked and laughed with Joe, helping him contain his excitement and nervousness and soon Joe ended up with his precious CD, a thrilling and exciting dream come true...and another person left smiling when Joe walked out the door.
This happened over and over again in our week there. But I was reminded that this is nothing new for him. He was born with mental and physical deficits, but more importantly, with the beautiful openness that is "Joe." From the moment of his birth, he pulled others to him - our family, of course, but friends, neighbors, church and schoolmates as well. Everyone in our large neighborhood knew Joe and looked out and cared for him. This same essence carried over when he left our parent's house to move into a structure of housing, education, and work designed to aid those mentally challenged with independence and self-reliance. Everyone still seems to know Joe and smiles in his presence.
Life isn't perfect for him; he does have his challenges and gets himself into trouble sometimes. But he walks in the light of grace and giving. This is what people learn to see when they look at him and this is what I believe they, with ease, let wrap around themselves and are left with when he walks away. He grins his funny little grin, his eyes light up, his joy and kindness comes through...and he has them caught in the most purest way possible.
He is without doubt, a blessing to this world.